https://okcupid.regfox.com/relationships-guide-under-new-management
https://okcupid.regfox.com/how-to-read-online-dating-site
https://www.ijimai.org/journal/user/41277
https://www.colors.life/post/1617826/
https://www.colors.life/post/1617827/
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/how-loveawake-has-transformed-my-wife
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/so-grateful-loveawake-has-set-us-free
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/spanking-in-anger
http://www.getx.com.tw/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/12748617
http://www.getx.com.tw/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/12748607
https://www.womenconnect.org/feedback?p_p_id=com_liferay_wiki_web_portlet_WikiDisplayPortlet_INSTANCE_bj7NdWzfrJNU&p_p_lifecycle=0&p_p_state=normal&p_p_mode=view
http://usamen.fresh.li/page/loving_supportive_and_kind_control
Specifically related to ‘try,’ ‘Should’ fulfills a similar function. When I say that I ‘should’ do something, Im subtly implying to myself that I don’t want to do it, and that it’s okay I fail to follow through because I didn’t actually commit to the action.
Taken in Hand will never outstrip the allure of BDSM. BDSM has a great deal going for it and people can certainly pick and choose what protocols they care to observe. BDSM is pansexual and inclusive; Taken in Hand caters only to those who prefer Maledom/femsub relationships.
BDSM as I mentioned above incorporates the importance of safety and of consensuality, issues that Taken in Hand practitioners, feeling very secure in a 1 to 1 committed relationship, often play fast and loose with. The BDSM community instructs newbies on safety precautions before meeting someone new and offers a lot of instruction on practices. In total it may look scary and freaky to an outsider but in my opinion its community standards are more stringent and protective of its own than are Taken in Hand's.
by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 16 - 21:11 | reply to this comment
Taken In Hand people are not irresponsible
My husband and I recognize that for us Taken In Hand is not primarily about changing behaviour. We recognise that for us many things he may take me in hand over will very likely re-occur. But we do not really just practice a spanko relationship, which he is very good at convincing me that the scene is real.
One thing I have found that the spankos I know do not understand is discipline spankings. They seem not to get the "consensual non-consent" that takes place in our relationship. They either think it is abusive or that we are somehow not right in the head. I can say no, and he can proceed. It is still within the framework of our relationship. I have given him consent in advance to proceed under this condition. He will spank me even when I do not in the moment desire a spanking. Not only will he proceed, but the decision to spank will be the best way for our relationship.
We do not use a safe word, but honestly, for what we are doing it is not necessary. If I was in true distress he would stop anyway. He knows me well enough that I trust this would happen. We do not practice anything that would really injure me in any way. In the beginning he insisted that we use a safe word. I found it more distressing having it than not having it. Always I was worried I would "need" it. Anyway I asked him to get rid of it, and told him he had blanket consent to decide. If I expressed a desire for a safe work, he would likely agree to one, but we have just found them useless to us.
https://okcupid.regfox.com/how-to-read-online-dating-site
https://www.ijimai.org/journal/user/41277
https://www.colors.life/post/1617826/
https://www.colors.life/post/1617827/
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/how-loveawake-has-transformed-my-wife
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/so-grateful-loveawake-has-set-us-free
http://www.icminozzimatera.it/web/eharmony/home/-/blogs/spanking-in-anger
http://www.getx.com.tw/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/12748617
http://www.getx.com.tw/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/12748607
https://www.womenconnect.org/feedback?p_p_id=com_liferay_wiki_web_portlet_WikiDisplayPortlet_INSTANCE_bj7NdWzfrJNU&p_p_lifecycle=0&p_p_state=normal&p_p_mode=view
http://usamen.fresh.li/page/loving_supportive_and_kind_control
Specifically related to ‘try,’ ‘Should’ fulfills a similar function. When I say that I ‘should’ do something, Im subtly implying to myself that I don’t want to do it, and that it’s okay I fail to follow through because I didn’t actually commit to the action.
Taken in Hand will never outstrip the allure of BDSM. BDSM has a great deal going for it and people can certainly pick and choose what protocols they care to observe. BDSM is pansexual and inclusive; Taken in Hand caters only to those who prefer Maledom/femsub relationships.
BDSM as I mentioned above incorporates the importance of safety and of consensuality, issues that Taken in Hand practitioners, feeling very secure in a 1 to 1 committed relationship, often play fast and loose with. The BDSM community instructs newbies on safety precautions before meeting someone new and offers a lot of instruction on practices. In total it may look scary and freaky to an outsider but in my opinion its community standards are more stringent and protective of its own than are Taken in Hand's.
by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 16 - 21:11 | reply to this comment
Taken In Hand people are not irresponsible
My husband and I recognize that for us Taken In Hand is not primarily about changing behaviour. We recognise that for us many things he may take me in hand over will very likely re-occur. But we do not really just practice a spanko relationship, which he is very good at convincing me that the scene is real.
One thing I have found that the spankos I know do not understand is discipline spankings. They seem not to get the "consensual non-consent" that takes place in our relationship. They either think it is abusive or that we are somehow not right in the head. I can say no, and he can proceed. It is still within the framework of our relationship. I have given him consent in advance to proceed under this condition. He will spank me even when I do not in the moment desire a spanking. Not only will he proceed, but the decision to spank will be the best way for our relationship.
We do not use a safe word, but honestly, for what we are doing it is not necessary. If I was in true distress he would stop anyway. He knows me well enough that I trust this would happen. We do not practice anything that would really injure me in any way. In the beginning he insisted that we use a safe word. I found it more distressing having it than not having it. Always I was worried I would "need" it. Anyway I asked him to get rid of it, and told him he had blanket consent to decide. If I expressed a desire for a safe work, he would likely agree to one, but we have just found them useless to us.